What To Do If Spyware Comes Up In Your Relationship


Couples now have intertwined digital lives, and so marital problems can lead to spying through specialized apps, keyboard loggers and GPS tracking technology.

These days, couples don’t just share banks accounts and cars. They may also have intertwined digital lives. That can open the door to spying, through specialized apps, keyboard loggers and GPS tracking technology.

“It’s difficult to go from married and trusting each other to ‘You are the devil,’ ” divorce lawyer Sophya Raza says. “Always keep your privacy at some basic level, especially if you are having marital issues.”

We asked divorce lawyers what they tell clients when spyware comes up. Here’s what they told us.

I have a shared email account with my ex, but now I’m worried. What should I do?

Email accounts are like toothbrushes. It’s best to have your own.

A shared email is a “recipe for disaster,” family law attorney Kevin Massaro says. His advice is simple: Get a new account. It’s important to change not only your account passwords, but to adjust your security questions as well — even consider making up false answers that only you know. So, if your first pet’s name was Max, and your ex knows that, consider making up another name.

You should also add passwords to your devices, and be sure not to leave accounts logged in. If you leave a message wide open on your desktop or unlocked phone, a spouse could say they saw it “by accident” and not face any penalty. To read more from Mollie Simon, click here.